Life's Daily Doses

Used vs Loved (this is powerful)

Used vs. Loved

While a man was polishing his new car, his 4 yr old son picked up a
stone and scratched lines on the side of the car. In anger, the man took
the child's hand and hit it many times; not realizing he was using a wrench.

At the hospital, the child lost all his fingers due to multiple fractures. 

When the child saw his father.....with painful eyes he asked,
'Dad when will my fingers grow back?'

The man was so hurt and speechless; he went back to his car and kicked
it a lot of times. Devastated by his own actions.......sitting in front of
that car he looked at the scratches; the child had written 'LOVE YOU DAD'. 
The next day that man committed suicide. . .. Anger and Love have no
limits; choose the latter to have a beautiful, lovely life..... Things
are to be used and people are to be loved, But the problem in today's
world is that, People are used and things are loved... 

During the day,  be careful to keep this thought in mind: Things
are to be used, but People are to be loved ... Be yourself....This is
the only day we HAVE. Have a nice day. Watch your thoughts; they become
words. Watch your words; they become actions. 

Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits they become
character; Watch your character; it becomes your destiny. 

Stay FAITHFUL and Be GRATEFUL

intensity in a small package

This child has always had something "intense" in her eyes. I have photo's of her when she was just a tiny little wee one and she would give me a look just like above and make me wonder what really was going on inside her soul. There are times when she is off in her own huge world and I would love to have insight of all she knows.

Even though this picture does not show her eyes  I can see the ever changing face. I see distinct changes that make me have to accept that she is growing up and no longer my baby.

Soul Coaching

The other day I happened to be on Aby Garvey's website and stumbled upon her friend that is doing Feng Shui and Soul Coaching. I was thinking to myself that feng shui has been a love of mine for some time. I really do believe that the art of placement and energy from our stuff makes a huge impact on our health. So I mustered up the courage to contact this friend of Aby's - laid it out all over the place - what we are facing with economic issues, house issues, family issues etc. She was so kind to me with her return response. Like a long lost friend that was so willing to lend an ear or hand to help. So after a few emails and much needed compassion I believe I am going to do the Soul Coaching 28 day program she offers. I need something for myself. I need to learn how to replenish my well that is dry. So if anyone out there wishes for more information check out her link via Aby Garvey's blog or click here .

technical difficulties...

I wasn't aware that I was having technical difficulties. I hope I managed to fix them.

That's What Friends Are For....

And I never thought I'd feel this way And as far as I'm concerned I'm glad I got the chance to say That I do believe I love you And if I should ever go away-ay Well then close your eyes and try Feel the way we do today And then if you can remember Keep smilin', keep shinin' Knowin' you can always count on me-ee, for sure That's what friends are for For good times and bad times I'll be on your side forever more-ore That's what friends are for Well you came and opened me And now there's so much more I see And so by the way I thank you Woh, and then for the times when we're apart Well then close your eyes and know The words are comin' from my heart And then if you can remember Oh-oh, keep smiling, keep shining Knowing you can always count on me, for sure That's what friends are for In good times, in bad times I'll be on your side forever more Oh-oh, that's what friends are for, oh-oh-oh Woh-oh-oh, keep smilin', keep shinin' Knowin' you can always count on me, for sure That's what friends are for-or-or-or For good times and bad times I'll be on your side forever more-ore-ore-ore-ore That's what friends are for-or-or-or-or Keep smilin', keep shinin' Knowin' you can always count on me, that's for sure 'Cause I tell ya, that's what friends are for For good times and the bad times I'll be on your side forever more That's what friends are for That's what friends are for, hah-hah, yeah

Routines we establish for our kids, does it make a difference?

I have been thinking a lot lately about all the things I have done for my older kids when they were smaller. The simple day to day routines that we establish for them to make them better calmer people. Simple routines like such:

1. bath time before going to bed

2. reading at bedtime

3. snack time after school

4. homework done at a specific time

5. dinner time as a family

6. putting dirty clothes in laundry basket

7. making beds in the morning

8. tidying up area before going to sleep

Does it really make a difference later in their lives when they are teenagers or young adults? I don't think it does. My kids don't seem to crave that structure or routine when they are smaller or older. I have 4 very different personalities with all of my kids and I sometimes wonder how impactful I really am. The time I take to do what I think is important in that feat to make them better and calmer functioning people in the adult world sometimes really seems to be a waste of my time. 

I have an adult in my home that can't even do laundry or pick up her rotten food/garbage even when it sits directly nexted to her while she sleeps. Who puts these blinders on them? I have the second in line for adulthood that can live in "funk" but then all of the sudden gets a wild hair in her and cleans like there is no tomorrow. She has her own little OCD'S that are present. Even after she picks on me for having mine. The little two -- well they still do as instructed. (most of the time) So give them a few more years to develope their own way of functioning in a house of routine. 

I want to believe that everything I have tried to instill in all of my kids was worth the time I invested. I have invested a great deal of my time and sometimes I don't feel I get the return I planned for. There are many times I am just hurt and saddened by what the end result shows. I guess my skin has not thickened enough. Sure hope it does...  because I have two more to go through this teenage / young adult stage. 

I will wish myself luck. 

So what routines do you think matter for kids? please comment and let me know.

Maintaining a Positive Frame of Mind

I am thinking to myself that it's difficult to maintain a positive frame of mind when you are selling your home. This is my home a place I feel is my sanctuary. I place that I am allowed to be myself and have all of me show no matter what. My safe place. I work really hard when presented with a "showing", I make sure my house sparkles and shines. I want people to know that my home will be just the right match for them. I feel so vulnerable when I know people are walking through "my" home and making judgement on why it's NOT a perfect match. I don't know but I believe its really hard to maintain a positive frame of mind when a showing feels so raw. When showing is judged. When a showing removes you from your comfortable spot to be explosed and then rejected. 

We have had SO many people in and out of our home lately. Some stay for lengthy periods of time to never return. Some don't stay long enough to really form an opinion. I just find myself battling with keeping an open mind and a positive frame of mind ..  knowing in my heart that this will be the one. We really need someone to just fall in love with our home, our sanctuary and our safe place...  

Sooner than later.

Horse Camp

Apple Drives Me CRAZY.. Why Do They Keep Doing This

Just Behind...

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This event actually happened in April. I am just REAALLLY slow with my updates. I believe having facebook really distracts me from my blog. I either upload there and feel as if I completed my task, but then remember that my blog lay dormant.

So this is from Mel's 21st Birthday. WOW ... 21. Where on earth has that time gone? I look at Cheyenne and I have 5 and change years and she will be sitting with that hat on herself. WHOA, gotta find the key to slow it down. That seems to be my constant complaint lately that time is getting away from me.

I am the one always with them, I am the one always doing things for them, I am the one that is active and involved and still time eludes me.